Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship.
A healthy love relationship is where two people are whole and complete. They have internal happiness within themselves. They live their own lives, with their partner complimenting their wholeness, and they have an abundance of life to share with the other person.
Healthy love relationships aren't tangled up with the other person like the A-frame, Smothering, Pedestal, Master/Slave, Boarding House, or Martyr relationships we described earlier in this week's blog. They don't try to control the other person because of their own insecurities, and they don't blame the other for their own problems and unhappiness. These relationships choose to stay with each other because they are free to be two people living their lives and sharing their lives together.
They can come closer together and be like the smothering position, they can walk hand in hand as they might do in parenting their children, they can move apart and have their own careers and their own lives and their own friends. But they choose to stay together because of their love for each other rather than having or needing to stay together because of some unmet emotional needs.
The healthy love relationship is one that gives both people the space to be their own person and to grow as an individual.
Do you have a healthy love relationship?
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.