As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple relationships that don't work out, and burn out on life. If you haven't yet, please consider reading the earlier blogs from Monday- Wednesday to get an idea of what loving too much looks like and what to do if you are doing it.
What do you do when you are loving in an unhealthy way?
1. Be open and trusting with people that you KNOW are safe- emotionally and physically. It is great and healthy to know people at a deep level. However, do not expose yourself to people who will take advantage of you, use you, or abuse you. If someone is not interested in your well-being, do not open yourself up to them.
2. It is great to ask yourself this question, in any relationship: "Is this relationship a good relationship for me? Does it help me become who I want to be and encourage me to grow as an individual?" If the answer is no, this relationship is probably not a good one, and one you could be possibly giving too much of yourself. Relationships need to help us grow as individuals and become better, healthier people. Otherwise, they are draining us.
3. Finding supportive friends, having your own interests, and your own faith can help you have more balance in a relationship. If you are not able to do this, it can feel like the world is ending when your relationships end. If you are able to establish interests outside of the relationship, then if it ends, you will be able to know there is still life. This can prevent you from falling into a major depression. Yes, you may still feel grief, but not the unhealthy type that swings you into a full depression.
If you have identified that you love too much we hope you are finding some help this week from our blogs. As Tamara mentioned, women are not the only ones who struggle with this. Men do as well.
Tomorrow Joleen will finish it up with 2 more ways you can help yourself. Thanks again for reading. We hope you have a wonderful week!
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville