Christmas Gifts that Say "I Get You"- Part 4

This week we are reviewing different Christmas gift ideas for your significant other, based on the way they need to feel most loved and cherished by you.  It could make a big difference this Holiday Season  in your S.O. feeling appreciated and validated!  Today we will review the last two gift ideas for each:

Physical affection- A great gift idea for the spouse/significant other who feels most cherished and loved through affection, is a gift certificate for a massage... by you!  Give your significant other a gift "coupon" for a spa day, where you pamper him/her with different forms of touch:  a foot massage, back rub, pedicure/manicure with hand massage, facial, scalp massage.  Another idea would be a "back rub a week for a month" certificate, redeemable at your significant others request.  On Christmas Day, wake your significant other up to a soothing back rub followed by a kiss on the cheek, and follow that by gestures of physical touch (hugs, kisses, holding hands) throughout the day (that are outside of the norm for your relationship).  Show your spouse you are going the extra mile because you understand this is how he/she feels loved!  Remember that the Love Language of physical touch doesn't just include sexual touch-- it's much more than that!

Tasks and Helping through "doing"- If your spouse feels most loved through receiving help with household tasks and general help through "doing", write a list of "Honey Do" projects he/she has been asking you to do for months, and dedicate one whole day to accomplishing everything on that list!  Give your significant other note card "coupons" for a "day off" around the house:  this would be a day where all they do is lounge around, while YOU take care of EVERYTHING around the house... from start to finish!  The idea of a day off for your spouse would mean that they don't lift a finger the entire day! This might include making breakfast for the family and cleaning up the kitchen, doing all of the household chores for the day/week (especially the ones your spouse really dislikes doing the most!), taking care of the kids, etc..  The idea of this is to communicate to your spouse that this is THEIR day to relax and to ease any form of burden or responsibility from their mind. 

These are just a few gift ideas that can be used to match the way your spouse feels most loved and cherished.  We hope you found some of this week's ideas helpful!  We also hope you find joy in celebrating the Christmas Holiday this year with your loved ones and family.  Until next week, thank you for joining us!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFTA, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.