As Therapists, we get the opportunity to be on the outside of conflict, looking in without being emotionally involved. Most of the time, it is easy to see how something was miscommunicated and what went wrong. But when you are in the heat of something or have a lot of baggage that you haven't dealt with, it is hard to see your part and make the changes needed. We hope this week that these tips will help you. If you haven't read the first 13, please do so. They are helpful! 14. Avoid sarcasm or condescending manner when giving feedback.
15. Share the positive too.
16. Do not give advice unless the person asks for it- just give them your reactions.
17. Ask for feedback if you would like it.
18. Receive the feedback openly.
19. Do not make excuses- just hear what you asked for!
20. Acknowledge the value of the feedback.
21. Don't just sit there with a blank stare. Let the person know what you are thinking or feeling. If you don't, they are left to make assumptions and that is usually not good.
22. Express appreciation that they cared enough to give you the honest feedback.
Remember- these are just tips. You can't change everything in a day. We encourage you to just pick a couple of them to focus on at a time. Then pick another once set have mastered the first set of tips.
Tomorrow Joleen will give you more tips. Thank you for reading and have a great week!
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.