Toxic Friendships - Seek Advice

It's hard to imagine ever having to "get out" of a friendship as you would a bad relationship. Besides, they're supposed to be your friend, right? But, sometimes we befriend people who can be unhealthy and who we need to distance ourselves. If you find yourself at this crossroads with a friend, hopefully this week's tips will help.

Talk to a neutral party

After you've done Step 1 (acknowledging the friendship is toxic), now it's time to talk to someone who is on the outside. This would be a person who does not know your friend and who has nothing to gain if you keep the friendship or if you end the friendship. At times a third party can offer suggestions and a point-of-view that your yourself had never considered. Ever find yourself in a conversation saying "Oh, I never thought about it that way..?" That's the objective here. A neutral person can give feedback to help you decide if the friendship can be healed or if it needs to end.  

These first two steps have been the "easy" part of the tips so far. Natalie will lead us into the depth of the process on Thursday as she discusses the more difficult parts. Thank you for reading!

Written by: Tammy McCord MA, LMHC, LCAC

*Tammy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling  at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.