I can say from experience, parenting is the biggest blessing in life and the biggest challenge. I have never felt so proud and inadequate in all my life! Any suggestions I can get are always welcome. I hope you have felt the same way this week as we have discussed strategies to help with difficult behaviors. Here are some more suggestions of things to do.
Things to Do:
Structure the environment so it is helpful to kids
Make sure you are not asking a child to sit quietly for too long. This is setting them up for failure and asking them to do more than can be expected. One minute per how old they are is a good measure. If they are 2 years old, give them 2 minutes.
When structuring the environment, make sure there are not a lot of overly stimulating noises or bright lights. Believe it or not, both can actually make children overly stimulated, causing them to sometimes feel a lot of stress that turns into access energy.
Set effective limits and rules.
Review the rules as your children grow. Make sure the rules are still age appropriate.
Use natural and logical consequences. (This is my personal favorite!)
We want to make sure you know that we are not saying that if the lights are too bright and the music is too loud your child is completely not responsible for their behavior, therefore you should let them act however they want to act. We are not saying that at all. What we ARE saying is that there are things as parents we can do in order to help our children behave better. Hopefully, you have found some today that can help.
Tomorrow Joleen will finish us up with more things to do. Thank you for reading and have a great day!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.