We are influenced daily by friends, family, work associates, community, the media, etc... All of these outlets can affect our self-esteem if we try to be like these influences, rather than developing and enjoying our own specific talents and strengths. What is a person with high self-esteem like?
4. They accept all of themselves - both the negatives and the positives. Let's face it. We're not perfect, and people with high self-esteem are able to acknowledge this. They realize they have negative attributes, and embrace those negatives, verses trying to hide them.
5. They see themselves as important, competent and capable of making their own decisions. Sure, they may ask for another's opinion from time to time, but they don't let other people make their minds up for them. They're not dependent on other people's opinions.
6. They ask for help when they want it. People with high self-esteem don't see it as "failure" or "weakness" when they ask others for help.
7. They allow themselves to be in touch with their whole range of feelings - sadness, anger, joy, love, embarrassment, etc... They accept all of their feelings as a part of their self. By doing this, it is easier to love & care for themselves and express all of their emotions with others.
8. They do not torture themselves with personal flaws or imperfections, but build on their strength for growth. They don't believe they are perfect, & accept their imperfections as part of being human, changing what they realistically can change.
9. They have the power and responsibility to design their own life to make it happier & more fulfilling & take an active approach toward life. They do not have a victim outlook, but instead take responsibility for what happens in their own life.
See yourself in any of these? Good! Please come back as Natalie & Joleen will go over the characteristics of low self-esteem later in the week & provide resources. Thanks!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.