If you haven't taken the time to read the past 2 blogs this week, please take a moment to do so. They are very short but informative! We are talking about "stinkin' thinking " or also called, in our therapy world, cognitive distortions. Today I am mentioning 2 that are very common and equally damaging.
6. Magnification (Catastrophizing) or Minimization: This is where everything gets blown out of proportion or is thought to be "no big deal".
Let's start with Magnification: This is when one thing happens and the person spirals into believing it is huge and will create so much more than what it actually will. An example of this is when a couple is having normal conflict that arises in a relationship and one partner believes they are headed for divorce.
The opposite of this, Minimization, would be: Not seeing something as big as it is. This is also called "denial". In this same example, let's say the couple continues fighting a lot and one partner tells the other, "I'm thinking about leaving". The other partner may not really believe them when there is actual evidence there to support it (the constant fighting AND the partner saying they are thinking about leaving). I think if a partner is saying this, there is definitely a problem. Someone who minimizes would not believe there is a problem.
7. Emotional Reasoning: This is were people feel a certain way, therefore it has to be true. Many of us have feelings that at times are not true. How many times have you been in a bad place and felt lonely so you have thought, "I don't have any friends". The truth was, you did have friends, you just felt lonely at the moment. If you believe everything you feel, or believe every thought that comes after your feeling, you will end up struggling a lot in relationships. It's important to do a reality check on our feelings. Many times they are correct, but not always.
Thank you for joining us today. Hopefully this is helpful, as we all have some stinkin' thinking from time to time! Tomorrow Joleen will share 3 more.
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville