4 Myths about Affairs Part 4

So far, we have heard some rather powerful myths about infidelity.  Have you recognized any from this week's blog?

Myth #4:  Adultery has to end in divorce.

Even though many marriages might end from the discovery of infidelity, it doesn't necessarily mean that adultery has to end in divorce.  Couples who seek out professional counseling following infidelity can actually strengthen their marriage to make it healthier and more connected than prior to the affair.  Many times, an affair can represent a deeper problem in the relationship.  Using the discovery of infidelity as a way to figure out any blind spots or weaknesses in the relationship (and with each individual) can be very healing to the marriage.  Believe it or not, we see couples recovering from infidelity who actually admit (years later) that the affair helped to serve as a warning light that something needed repaired within their marriage-- and they eventually feel a sense of gratitude for going through something so painful.  This takes a lot of time and hard work towards healing, of course!

We hope these myths have helped to clarify some things about adultry that you might have been struggling with.  As always, thank you for reading!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFTA NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.