This week we are talking about MYTHS people have about affairs. So much magical thinking goes on in affairs. As ridiculous as some of the myths sound, when people are in affairs and actual biophysical things are happening in their bodies, it is quite possible they convince themselves the myths are true.
Myth #3: "Adultery is harmless."
Movies are just one venue in which adultery has been presented positively. The English Patient received twelve Oscar nominations including best picture of the year for its depiction of an adulterous relationship between a handsome count and the English-borne wife of his colleague. The Bridges of Madison County relates the story of an Iowa farmer's wife who has a brief extra-marital affair with a National Geographic Photographer that supposedly helped re-energize her marriage. The Prince of Tides received seven Oscar nominations and shows a married therapist bedding down with her married patient.
Even when affairs are not found out, they still have devastating effects on the family. Your time, energy, and heart are being given to something else besides your spouse and family. Your mind is somewhere else.
Affairs shatter trust, intimacy, and self-esteem in relationships. It can take years to recover from this. The movies and magazines do not show us the devastation the couple and their families have to endure after the affair. They really should have a movie on that.
Tomorrow Joleen will give us one more myth. Thank you for reading. Have a great day!
Written by Natalie Chandler
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville