Affairs happen in many relationships. It causes deep pain and destruction for all parties involved with it's ripple effects going much wider than people think. Media and society put many wrong ideas in people's heads about adultery that we want to help clear up this week. We will be exploring 4 myths that people commonly believe about affairs. Myth #1: Affairs are about sex
Many people aren't seeking out a "prettier" or more "fit and handsome" sexual partner. Most affairs happen as a result of emotional needs not being met in the marriage. Yes, sex can be one of those needs, but it tends to be more about the connection with the new found partner that fulfills the emptiness they were longing for. Most affairs actually start out as emotional affairs, and lead into the physical. Author Frank Pittman of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy found that many couples who had affairs in their history actually had a good sex life, but very little intimacy. He said, "Affairs were three more times to be the pursuit of a buddy than the pursuit of a better orgasm."
Keep checking back this week for more myths about affairs and learn more about things to be aware of to prevent the pain of an affair in your relationship.
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.