Lying and Trust Issues: Betrayal

We all have people in our lives that we struggle with because of lying or betrayal.  I'm sure you can probably think of a few right now!  These individuals may lie constantly, fabricate stories, betray our trust, “backstab”, cheat, abuse, or do unethical things. 

In this blog we are talking about people who lie, betray, and the trust issues that lying can cause in any kind of relationship. Trust in any kind relationship is important -- from intimate relationships, friendships, family, co-workers, etc.  If I can’t trust you, I may wonder what malicious motives you may have for everything you say and do.  I may question everything, constantly look for those red flags or “gut feelings” and probably not believe you about most things.  Our relationship will possibly become very superficial because of my fear.

Betrayal by someone you care about is an extreme wound.  If someone has done something and broken that trust, I may build walls up to protect myself.  In the future, when someone else hits that “wound”, I will feel the pain severely.  I may experience anxiety, have trouble being vulnerable with others, and have very low expectations.  I may find it very difficult to believe that people are basically good and trustworthy.

Continue to read this series as we continue to talk about lying, trust, and betrayal—and some actions steps to take for your own healing.

Guest post written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW a licensed therapist at Journey To Joy Counseling.