Why is Your Husband Not Attracted to You? Part 1

This week at Imagine Hope, we will be discussing multiple reasons why it might seem as though your husband is no longer attracted to you, or why he is unhappy in your marriage.  Next week we will also be discussing “Why is Your Wife Not Attracted to You?”  We hope that this two-part blog series is helpful and eye-opening!

Do you ever wonder what it is that makes your husband seem distant, unhappy/miserable in your marriage? Do you ever wonder why it seems like he no longer feels attracted to you? If you reflect back to the beginning of your relationship, things may have seemed great.  It’s common for couples to find themselves disconnected as the years go on.  We hope this week we can offer some areas to evaluate and possibly make some changes in.

Over-focusing on children

Once children come along, it’s really easy to put your marriage on the backburner.  Women especially are prone to making everything about the children’s needs, while neglecting not only their own needs, but also their husband’s.  Every minute of the day is spent planning meals, cleaning, working, running kids everywhere, and trying to hold it all together.

The message this sends to your husband is that he (and the marriage) are no longer the priority.  Imagine how that must feel to him.  He was once your world, and the number one priority, and now he’s lucky to get any of your time and attention.  This is where bitterness and resentment can creep into your marriage. 

Your marriage has to be the priority, otherwise you will be strangers living together once the children are raised.  Just remember, you didn’t get married just to have a family.  You got married because you liked (and loved) one another, and you wanted to make a life together, including raising a family.  Make sure you are connecting with your husband and showing him by your words and actions that he is still so important to you.

Check back this week as we discuss more reasons why your husband may be struggling with feeling attraction toward you, and the reasons he might be unhappy in your marriage!

Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.