Taking Care of Yourself Through a Divorce-Part 3

4. Give Yourself a Break- It’s ok to not be ok.  Give yourself permission to grieve, feel your feelings, and breathe.  You’re probably not going to be 100% for a while, and that’s ok!  Be kind to yourself and set realistic goals and expectations.  It’s going to take time to heal and grieve this loss.  Do things that make you feel good and take care of yourself.

 5. Eat Well- Resist the urge to eat a whole carton of ice cream in one sitting.  Many of us over or under-eat when we are stressed.  We may look to food to comfort us in the moment, but the comfort is very temporary.  Bad eating habits make bad feelings feel even worse.  Take care of your body and give it the nutrients it needs.  Try to limit “comfort” foods and foods high in sugar, calories, and carbs. 

6.  Get Outdoors- It’s so good for you!  There is nothing like fresh air and sunshine when you are feeling bad.  Go for a walk/hike, bike ride, kayak, swim, etc.  Get some exercise and some Vitamin D, which will also help combat feelings of anxiety and depression.  Allow yourself to just be with no schedule and no agenda.  Being outdoors can be very freeing and healing. 

When you are feeling bad, it can be hard to force yourself to do the things you know you need to do.  Please be gentle on yourself during this time.  If you need additional support, please seek out a professional to help you during this difficult time.  You’ll be so thankful you did!

Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.