Protect Your Kids During Divorce Thru Minimizing Changes

4. Stay Connected with Your Child

If you are going through a divorce, or even contemplating one, think about the stress and anxiety you experience when you think about the changes that are happening in your life.  If you are feeling uneasy, worried, scared, and stressed, there is a very good possibility that your children feel similarly.  The less change right now, the better off your children will be!

If it’s feasible, don’t move your children away from their schools, friends, church, etc.  Like Teri mentioned earlier this week, divorce takes a child’s normal and flips it upside down.  Be supportive of your child’s interests, schoolwork, activities and try to maintain normalcy as much as possible!  The more stability you can achieve, the easier your children will adjust to the “new” normal.

If you do have to move your children to another school or away from their friends, make an effort (if possible) to allow them to see their old friends or have contact with them (Facebook, email, texting, etc.)  Also be encouraging as they make new friendships in their new school, and support them as they get involved in new activities.

Read tomorrow for more ways to protect your children.  As always, thanks for stopping by!

Written by guest blogger, Christy Fogg

Written by guest blogger Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

*Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Journey to Joy Counseling in Carmel, Indiana. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples counseling, and relationship counseling. She also provides family counseling, teen counseling, and adolescent counseling.  You can read more about Christy at