Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop dreaming about things to come in the future.
To create more sparks in your marriage, you need to have something to look forward to-- what better way to do this than to dream!
Ask each other questions, such as: "Where would you like to take a dream vacation in the next five years as a couple?", "What are your dreams for retirement?", "If you could have a dream home anywhere in the world, where would it be?", "What is your ideal kind of family week?".....
Dreaming together doesn't mean that your dreams have to be realistic. Sometimes, it's fun to just dream about the things you would love to have or do, even when they seem unreachable. Remember that it's the process of dreaming together, not necessarily what the content of the "dream" is about. It helps you to continue learning about each other, as well as thinking about your future with your spouse!
Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.