How Fear Affects Your Relationships

Happy Halloween! Fear is in the air. Many will celebrate with scary movies, scary songs, & scary costumes. But Halloween isn't the only time of year that we talk about, experience or notice fear.

Fear can be a constant companion in many areas of our lives. This week we want to discuss those areas and how fear can affect them.


Fear in relationships can surface in a lot of different ways. We may hold back how we feel, what we think or what we need for fear of how others are going to react. The fear thoughts may be: Will they accept me? Will they think I'm crazy? Am I the only one who feels this way? As a result of holding back, we may feel "unheard", misunderstood, or unknown in our relationships.

Fear can also keep us from trusting people within our relationships. We may not believe they'll "be there" for us, or that they will follow-through on promises they make. As a result, we may refuse help or do everything on our own. If someone unintentionally lets us down, we may pre-maturely end the relationship out of fear that the person will "never" be there for us.

As you can see, fear can play a large part in relationships. We do not want to discount any real heartache in the past that has led to distrust and hurt in the present. If this has happened, we encourage you to seek a trusted friend, pastor or counselor to work through this fear.

Thank you for reading. Please check back in as we discuss other areas of life that fear takes hold.

Written by: Tamara McCord MA, LMHC, LCAC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.