Dysfunctional families are every where. Most often the family is caught up in all the drama around them that they don't notice how much it can impact the kids. This week we will break down some specific ways that kids are impacted by dysfunction from Pia Mellody's book Facing Codependence. A child naturally feels valuable. This instinct is built in from infancy.
If a child grows up in a dysfunctional family system, they can perceive him/ herself on one extreme as less valuable, or the opposite extreme as better than others. Dysfunctional environments alter a child's instinct to feel valuable. In order to cope with the dysfunction and to survive, they see their value to be less than or better than those around them.
As adults, this can lead to difficulty in experiencing appropriate levels of self esteem. This trait of codependency creates constant second guessing and feelings of insecurity.
So parents make sure you spend time teaching your kids the natural value they bring to your family. This can avoid self esteem issues in the future.
Keep reading tomorrow for more. Thanks for reading!
Written by guest blogger Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.