Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon-Which One to Choose?

How is your relationship with your car similar to your relationships with others? Can you learn something about what it takes to be in a relationship from how you treat your car? This week we are taking this light-hearted analogy and drawing parallels to relationships. You'll be surprised how much applies! Buying the Car/ Which One do I Choose?

There are SO many decisions to make when buying a car. Buy? Lease? SUV? Van? 2 Door? Gas mileage? Used? New? Color? Features? I could go on and on! How do you narrow it down?

Last spring my husband and I bought a truck. We searched, researched, test drove, and checked them out for over a month.  There were several great finds along the way. One looked great and was an awesome deal, but it wasn't what we needed or what we had set out for. There were several moments we almost talked ourselves into getting it, but when we really sat down we decided against it because we would have been compromising our needs to get it. It would have been so easy to get swept away in the moment and not think through the weight of our decision. Had we jumped in too quick, we might have had regrets or even worse... a lemon!

Did you ever think that people take more time deciding what car to buy than they do on who they are having relationships with? Many people get caught up in the whirlwind of a new relationship and rationalize away the red flags they see along the way.

When going into a relationship, make sure that you take your time to really think about your decision. Try not to get lost in the idea of something "new", like my husband and I almost did with buying a truck. Slow down and think about what you really need from that relationship. Check things out by truly getting to know the person, much like you would by having a mechanic look at a car before buying it. Make sure you don't sweep issues under the rug when deciding about the relationship. Have a voice and speak your needs. Otherwise you could find yourself in a relationship "lemon"!

Remember a relationship is a matter of the heart which makes it a much bigger deal than buying a car. Your relationship deserves more of your energy than your car does!

Tomorrow Tamara will help us see how important "Maintenance" is for your relationship! Stay tuned!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.  Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.