By now, you have read about the other 4 Love Languages: Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. The 5th Love Language is Quality Time. Quality time is focused and undivided attention, where you go to the other persons emotional level to connect with them. Simply stated, it is the gift of presence. Quality time means putting away the cell phones and computer related gadgets, turning off the TV, and focusing exclusively on spending good, intimate time with your partner. If you are communicating using the love language of quality time, it's important to have direct eye contact, and listen with no distractions. Other examples of Quality Time could be spending time doing something together that your partner enjoys, such as cooking a meal together or having a regular date night as a couple. I like to think of Quality Time as really making the commitment to entering your partners internal world through conversation, activities, and other ways of showing them you care about them.
For more information on Love Languages, we highly recommend the source for this blog series-- "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It's definitely a "must read" for couples and families!
Check back next week for our upcoming blog topic where we will discuss the different aspects of anxiety.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.