One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight recently is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle with internally of insecurity. However, on the outside, this insecurity comes out as defensive, critical, controlling, & indignant behavior. In this book, Beth explores & welcomes the male perspective, how the men in each of our lives want to see us succeed and be full of confidence, & how they too struggle with insecurity. She points out that women cannot solely depend upon men (or other relationships) to provide their confidence or security because men too feel insecure at times...therefore, they have little to give women! Beth Moore highlights roots of insecurity, whether it's instability in the home growing up, abuse, rejection, personal limitations, our culture, or our pride. She also goes into great detail reminding us that our security is God given, no one can take that away from us. She gets the reader to the point of realizing you can only feel insecure if you give your security to others. There are so many wonderful things in this book, I cannot speak highly enough about it! One last thing though; Beth points out the difference between feeling sad, upset, confused, embarrassed & feeling insecure. We can experience all of these negative and uncomfortable emotions but we have the power to choose whether or not it attacks our security. Someone may hurt our feelings, intimidate us, embarrass us or criticize us, but we decide what happens from there. As Beth says, "My security is mine to keep. You cannot have it".
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.