The Secret to Keeping New Years Resolutions 4

To start off the new year, this week we are discussing how we can successfully keep new year's resolutions.  So far, we have some great tips on how to do this.  Let's talk about a few more!

6. Find an accountability partner.

This is the best tip we can give you.  Find someone you can share your goals with that can ask you how you’re doing with them.  Whether that is your spouse, or a best friend, it's important to find someone who will help to hold you accountable if you need a gentle reminder or a strong push.  Find someone that is safe and that you can trust.  It is also helpful to find someone who is working on obtaining his or her goals as well. 

7. Don't let "all or nothing" thinking sabotage your goals.

Sometimes it can be human nature to begin our goals with such gusto that we inadvertently set ourselves up for failure.  One of these situations is when we use "all or nothing" thinking.  If you find yourself having "slacked" on beginning to work on your goals in February, don't have the mentality of "Oh well, I haven't done it yet, so why start now?" Other examples of "all or nothing thinking include abandoning your goals if they aren't met "perfectly", or labeling yourself as "good" or "bad" depending on your performance in attaining your goals.  Remember that your goals can be revised and re-written to make them more realistic and achievable throughout the year!  The idea of setting goals is to make improvements, not to experience perfection.

Obviously, these suggestions are things you can use all year with anything you want to change- not just New Years Resolutions. I hope this change in thinking will be helpful for you.  By the time you review them the following January, hopefully they will feel more like life changes than "resolutions"!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFTA, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.