We're continuing our discussion today on all the different things that can interfere in a couple's sex life. Yesterday Teri discussed not feeling emotionally safe, feeling too tired/being too busy, and body image. Today we're going to discuss 2 other areas that can create roadblocks. Sex Addiction/Fantasy- If one person in the relationship is struggling with a sexual addiction, this can create a roadblock in the relationship. The same is true for engaging in sexual fantasies frequently. How can sexual addiction interfere in someone's sex life? A number of different things can happen. First of all, when a person is thinking about their addiction, the brain releases chemicals (serotonin, adrenaline, epinephrine) & you experience a "high" feeling. Hence, becoming addicted. In a relationship, this can increase the need for sex with a partner, in which they may or may not be agreeable. Or, it will take more of the addiction in order to meet the same desired effect. Therefore, pornography, prostitutes, strip-clubs, etc... may become part of the addiction as well. Finding help for sexual addiction is widespread with 12-step groups & available therapists to help.
Physical Health- Unfortunately many people suffer from physical pain that limits them sexually. Whether it's from a car/job accident or physical illness, suffering from physical pain can make it hard to be intimate in the bedroom. Making sure you discuss this with your partner & talk to your doctor about the best possible treatment can help. At the same time many medication side effects affect libido/sex drive in men and women. Talk to your doctor before starting a medication to see if there is similar drug on the market that does not have these side effects....they are out there! Lastly, some low sex drives can be linked to out-of-whack hormone levels. Check with your doctor to make sure all hormone levels are balanced and good to go.
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Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.