One book I find myself recommending over and over to clients is Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. This book is a great read for anyone struggling with boundaries, taking care of what other people need first, and putting their own needs last. Do you think it's easier and more efficient to just do it yourself than rely on others to do it? Do you then get overwhelmed and exhausted because you've put too much on your plate and get resentful because no one ever seems to help? Or, maybe you feel as though you walk on eggshells with angry people in your life, wishing you could speak up, but you don't, fearing it will only make things worse. Instead you focus all your energy in your work, kids, television, or eat comfort foods because you don't feel strong enough to stand up for yourself. If any of the above sounds familiar, then Codependent No More will help. Melody Beattie lists all the different characteristics of Codependency (more than what I've described), along with helping the reader learn how to:
- detach from unhealthy situations in love
- no longer feel like a victim
- live their own life and not feel pulled in different directions by other's emotions
- pay attention to their own feelings
- set their own goals
- practice self-care
These are just a few of the topics in the book. This is one that is definitely worth buying versus getting from the library because it's a great book to re-read every few years for a great refresher course & keeps you on track. Check back in on Thursday & Friday as Natalie & Joleen share their Fall book recommendations! Thanks for reading!
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counselingat Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.