There are many things that block individuals and couples from working on their issues in therapy. However, the one I see the most is keeping consistent. This includes keeping your progress and recovery a priority, and not quitting when it gets really tough.
Most couples or individuals come in because something happened that led them to decide they needed to make changes. Usually it's a really big fight with each other, an affair, someone decides to leave, or an individual hits rock bottom. This has motivated them to move forward in getting help. As time passes, this motivation can slowly wear off. The feelings that were once so strong are a little better, less painful, and this can lead to lack of motivation. With that usually comes less consistency and lack of priority for making the changes that were needed in the first place. Additionally, lack of motivation can come when the issues start getting really deep and painful. The sad part about that is, this is usually right before someone or a couple is getting ready to have a break-thru. You have to go THRU the pain in order to get there though.
Usually people that aren't consistent and don't make working on their issues a priority continue having the same problems. This either brings them back to therapy to work on the same issues or if they stayed in therapy, it prolongs therapy and drags the process out longer. Thus, they see results much further down the road than they would have if they stayed consistent.
It is very important to remain consistent and keep recovery a priority if you want to see changes in your relationships and in yourself. Don't give up when the therapy gets tough. If it weren't for the winter we wouldn't appreciate the spring!
Thank you for reading and have a great day!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.