What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start

Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an individual, or even healing from a difficult childhood experience. As therapists we notice that there are several challenging aspects of the recovery process which can block people from committing to true change. This week Imagine Hope wants share with you things we hear that keep people stuck in their issues. People wait too long until things are out of control and it feels too hard.

I've noticed that many of my clients are "tardy" to counseling. The issues have blown up and seem too overwhelming to dig through. They wait to try counseling as the "last attempt" to fix things, but in reality counseling should be a tool to use earlier before more damage is done. Do you get your oil changed in your car as recommended? If you don't the consequence is that your engine will be ruined and the car will take a lot of money and work to rebuild it. The same is true with working on your issues. If you let it go too long, you may feel it's easier to throw in the towel and "get a new car" rather than re-wire and heal all the wounds from the past. When I meet with clients at this point it seems they feel "cursed" and that the problem at hand is irreversible. They don't prioritize their personal recovery until it's out of control and they end up spending more time, money, and energy in the long run trying to feel happy again. But had they done work along the way it wouldn't be so overwhelming.

I'm not trying to say that counseling will always be easy and will "fix" everything if done earlier, but I can say that the journey is a great way to get started on taking control of your issues and managing them in a way that they aren't overpowering your life. Besides everyone could use an emotional "tune-up" once and a while!

Keep reading this week as we help our readers see other challenges that block them from change!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.