We're continuing our talk on creating intimacy in relationships. It is essential the lines of communication stay open and assumptions be put aside in order for this to happen. Let's look at our next 3 tips:
#3- If you believe you are always depositing into your partner's love account, talk with your partner about this and give them ideas of how you feel loved. Identify your love language (discussed in yesterday's blog) and share with them how they can fulfill your needs. Additionally, identify your partner's love language. Focus on one thing per day that you can do to make a deposit.
#4- Figure out what intimacy really means to you and communicate it to your partner. Men tend to think it refers only to better sex while women look at a much broader context, including emotions, physical contact, and conversation. Communicate this to your partner and be very specific.
#5- Show patience in every form of intimate communication. This creates a safe, trusting, and intimate environment. Relationships where patience is practiced flourish and have a deep bond. Each person in the relationship understands they can share whatever is on their heart, and in return, they will not be ridiculed for sharing.
Stay tuned for the next 5 tips for creating intimacy!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.