As you have read, this week we are discussing ways an individual or couple might recognize if they are ready for counseling. So many times in my sessions, I have heard "I wish I would have done this YEARS ago!"... Of course, we truly believe it's never too late to make the investment in your life that counseling provides! Here are a few more tips on how to know you are ready for counseling:
- When you find yourself repeatedly turning to unhealthy or addictive behaviors to cope. Who *hasn't* ever had a single time in their life where they used something less than healthy to cope with a painful or uncomfortable feeling or life situation? (e.g., ice cream or chocolate when you are lonely or sad, a glass of wine after a stressful day, etc.). When you find yourself *repeatedly* turning to food, work, alcohol, drugs, or other addictive behaviors to cope with life stress or personal pain, then it's time to get into counseling before your life becomes unmanageable.
- When you don't like who you are becoming. Usually, this is a result of much pain, discomfort, or resentment that has built up over time. Many times we will see a person in individual or couple's counseling that has allowed mistreatment or dysfunction to happen for years in their relationships with others. As a result, it has impacted the relationship with their sense of SELF. Maybe you have "lost" yourself in another person or feel resentful and bitter about life because of the ways you have allowed others to treat you... Whatever the reason, if you find you are disliking who you have become, it's a great time to seek out counseling before you get too entrenched in the "you" that you dislike!
One of the most important things we stress at Imagine Hope is how VERY important it is to find a therapist that's a GOOD FIT for you! Just because someone has letters behind their name and advertises their talent doesn't always mean they are a competent, ethical therapist with a personality style and style of therapy that is a good match for you. Here is a link to a great article on how to choose a therapist: http://www.imaginehopecounseling.com/fullarticles.php?ID=2. We truly wish you the best in your journey, if you make the steps towards choosing the investment of counseling!
Until next week, we thank you for reading! Check back for next weeks blog, which will focus on "Dysfunctional or unhealthy phrases we hear in counseling".... Have a great week!
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.