Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning Quarterbacks"... the people who feel like they need to give you advice on what you should have done differently, or those that might think you need to hear them repeatedly "bash" your soon-to-be-ex. Perhaps there are people around you that encourage you do things that are self-destructive (like trying to set you up on a date, thinking it will ease your transition period...
We're continuing our discussion this week on tips for self-care during the divorce process. We don’t have to do all of these at once. Choose one and add the others when it feels appropriate.
Give Yourself a Break- It’s ok to not be ok. Give yourself permission to grieve, feel your feelings, and breathe. You’re probably not going to be 100% for a while, and that’s ok! Be kind to yourself and set realistic goals and expectations. It’s going to take time to heal and grieve this loss. Do things that make you feel good and take care of yourself.
Divorce is a major life-change that many individuals go through. It's difficult, confusing and chaotic at times. This week we'd like to offer you some recommendations to help you take are of yourself if you find yourself in the middle of a divorce:
1. Find Some Stability- Throughout this process there will be alot of disruption. Lots of meetings with lawyers & mediators, lots of packing, lots of emotions. Try to find some sort of normalcy as much as you can.
Regardless of the reason for the split or who initiated the divorce, both partners need to take care of themselves through the process- especially if there are kids involved. The better you handle your stress through a divorce and stay relatively balanced will more likely help your child as their world changes.
This week we are talking about tangible ways to keep a relationship connection. Notice we didn't say "easy". Unfortunately with the busyness of life, it's not easy to to make our relationships a priority. It can be difficult to find the time to do things to keep them maintained. Relationships are like plants. If you neglect them, they will slowly wither up and die. It's important to have good maintenance.
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? While there is no “cure” for SAD, there are things you can do to minimize and limit the symptoms to cope more effectively. Here are some treatment options:
Light Therapy. Light therapy is used with a “light box”, which is a specially designed device that produces high levels of light and is usually used for 30 minute intervals twice a day (or as prescribed by your doctor).
Psychotherapy/counseling. As with any form of depression, counseling can greatly assist you in identifying life stresses and learn better ways of coping that aid in depression symptoms.
Antidepressants. While not all people need antidepressants, if you have tried other methods of coping and seem unable to make improvements with your symptoms (or if they seem to be getting worse), antidepressants may be needed to help with SAD.
Living a healthy lifestyle. This means trying to keep a regular sleep schedule and good sleep hygiene, eating right, exercising, drinking water, limiting alcohol consumption, and eliminating addictive behaviors.
There are many options to treatment for SAD, though the best treatment for you depends on the severity of your symptoms, as well as the duration for which they have been present. Don’t hesitate to contact your doctor or a professional counselor if you identify with SAD symptoms. Help is closer than you realize!
Joleen Watson, LMFT, MS, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.
Seasonal Affective Disorder is a common thing we see in our offices starting this time of year. Keep reading this week to see if you are a sufferer or know someone who is. We found this information so important to our readers that we are re-posting this blog series from last year. Information will help you and give you hope!
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how ADHD impacts marriage and the marital relationship. Adults with ADHD tend to be scattered in their thinking and easily distracted. This can make it very difficult to have meaningful conversations and stay on one topic without jumping from subject to subject. Have you ever struggled with your spouse "chasing squirrels" in conversation? For example, you might be sharing something emotional that happened to you during the day, or something you are excited about in your life, and your spouse gets distracted by their own thoughts or they veer off topic with seemingly random subjects.
As Christy mentioned yesterday, there are many issues a marriage faces throughout it's lifetime. Most, however, may not have imagined their marriage would feel the effects of ADD/ADHD... I mean, that's just for kids, right? Think again.
Visionary & Creative, But...
Someone with ADD/ADHD will have wonderful creative ideas for projects or crafts. They'll have innovative ideas for businesses or be really great at marketing. BUT, sometimes follow-through can be an issue.