How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 3

How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 3

This week we have been discussing how to know if you are ready for counseling. Have you recognized any of the items we have mentioned this week? So many people and couples go thru life just accepting it as difficult, boring, and full of heartache. But that doesn't have to be the case. If any of these issues are present, maybe it's time to do something about it!

How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 2

How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 2

As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision may not be so clear.

How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 1

How Do You Know You’re Ready for Counseling? Part 1

How do you know if you are ready for therapy? Here are two signs you might be ready for therapy:

  1. When you are feeling pain in your life & relationship that is not getting resolved

What is "Acting Out" in Pornography Addiction?

What is "Acting Out" in Pornography Addiction?

So far this week, we have discussed the different stages of pornography addiction.  These stages are escalating-- meaning, they get progressively worse as time goes on.  We have learned that initially, pornography addiction begins as early exposure.  Next, that exposure becomes something that the individual continues to return to, in order to get the same relief.  Next, the behaviors increase, leading to escalation of behaviors that would have normally disgusted the individual to begin with.  Following escalation is the desensitization phase, where the individual becomes numb to the very behaviors that were "exciting" to begin with.  After the desensitization phase is:

Acting out sexually.

The Desensitization of Pornography Addiction

The Desensitization of Pornography Addiction

This week we have been discussing the stages of pornography addiction. If you haven't read the first 3 stages; Exposure, Addiction, and Escalation, please take the time to do so before moving forward. It's important to understand that porn addiction is a progression and doesn't happen overnight. Today we are going to discuss Desensitization. 

How the Brain Gets Addicted to Pornography

How the Brain Gets Addicted to Pornography

Why is pornography so addictive?  Well, there are many reasons for this.  Today we are going to discuss how and why exposure to pornography can develop into an addiction. 

Exposure to pornography surges the reward circuit or pleasure center in the brain, releasing large amounts of dopamine.  Dopamine makes you feel good and the brain "remembers" how good it felt.  This “good feeling” can provoke you to repeat the same behavior, despite negative consequences, to feel that pleasure again. So, you keep coming back for more and more.  Often times, it results in not being able to stop, and you can get hooked on pornography.

What is Pornography Addiction?

What is Pornography Addiction?

This week at Imagine Hope, we are discussing the 5 stages of pornography addiction.  Pornography addiction is defined as compulsive sexual activity with the simultaneous use of porn, resulting in mental, physical, emotional, relational, monetary, and other life-functioning issues.  Pornography addiction can lead to isolation, depression, job loss, financial issues, infidelity, and relationship issues.  

Why Are You REALLY Angry? Resources

Why Are You REALLY Angry? Resources

his week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group wraps up our blog series on anger.  As we have discussed earlier in the week, anger can often times be what we call a "secondary" emotion.  This means that what looks like anger is really secondary to another feeling that is underneath the angry reaction.  If you haven't read the earlier blog parts from this week, I encourage you to check out part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4.  So, read on if you want to learn about why you or someone you love might REALLY be angry.

Why are You REALLY angry? Hurt

Why are You REALLY angry? Hurt

We are discussing anger this week and how it is a secondary emotion. As we look into the primary emotions that the anger is protecting such as sadness, fear, disappointment, and hurt, we see how important it is to identify what is driving the anger. When you recognize and deal with the primary emotions, the anger slowly goes away. Today let's talk about hurt- something we all can relate to. 

Why are you REALLY angry? Fear

Why are you REALLY angry? Fear

This week we are having a great discussion about what is underneath our anger.  We have come to understand that anger is a secondary emotion, which means that there are many other emotions that underlie the emotion of anger.  These emotions are hidden deep down inside of us, and are feelings that we don't want others to see.  Today, the underlying emotion of anger that I'm going to talk about is fear.

Why are You REALLY Angry? Secondary Emotion

Why are You REALLY Angry? Secondary Emotion

We all get angry, right?  Anger is a normal, God-given emotion just like sadness, happiness, fear, jealousy, and guilt.  However, the interesting thing about anger, compared to the other emotions, is that anger is often referred to as a “secondary emotion”.  This week at Imagine Hope we will be discussing the role of anger as a secondary emotion.  We hope this week’s blog helps you discover why you’re REALLY angry.

Non-Traditional Addictions: Busy Addiction

Non-Traditional Addictions: Busy Addiction

Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a "schedule" or having something planned make you anxious? When you have "down time", are you able to just relax, or do you need to be busy and doing something?

Non-Traditional Addictions: People Pleasing

Non-Traditional Addictions: People Pleasing

Most of us have an innate need inside us to please other people. Individuals who don't care what anyone else thinks or feels typically don't have very positive relationships. But what we are talking about here is a need that drives someone to please others…

Non-Traditional Addictions: Anger

Non-Traditional Addictions: Anger

"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies", Nelson Mandela.

Resentment is a form of anger. You have probably heard that anger plays a large role in addictions. But did you know that there is an actual anger addiction?