As Teri discussed, sometimes we set goals for ourselves at the beginning of the New Year, which fizzle out or we don’t accomplish. If your goals haven’t been met, what got in the way? Here are some examples of things we allow to sabotage our progress:
- Setting a goal in an unrealistic manner or aiming too high. Sometimes, we can feel so motivated that we set goals that aren’t realistic, then feel frustrated and give up.
- Was there a crisis that threw you off course? For example, an illness, trauma, or family emergency or death.
- Black and white thinking, which is an “all or nothing” way of thinking about things. Black and white thinking can cause us to look at a goal unrealistically, which is a roadblock to accomplishing a goal. With this distorted thought process, if we aren’t doing “all” of the goal, we might as well do “nothing”.
- Procrastination, or waiting until the last minute to start something. Most procrastination is a result of telling ourselves “I’ll do it tomorrow”, but that time doesn’t come.
- Not making the goal a high enough priority, including allowing other (less-important) things to take precedence over doing something that is truly important to you.
- Not setting boundaries with others, which causes you to help everyone else but yourself.
- Making excuses and blaming others (e.g., “It’s too hot”, “I’m too tired”, “It’s too late”, “My wife/husband/sister/friend will get angry with me”, “If he/she would come home earlier, maybe I could do it”, etc.).
- Not being mindful, or not keeping the goal as a part of your daily or weekly routine.
- Lack of accountability. Because we are human, we also need others help sometimes in holding us accountable! Having little or no accountability can make it easier to fall behind on the goals we want to follow through with.
Check back tomorrow when Tammy will discuss some of the ways to get through the roadblocks we set for ourselves, which results in more progress with the goals we want to accomplish!
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.