I absolutely love Gary Chapman's concept of the Love Languages. I love teaching it to couples and watch them "get it" as they identify their own language and that of their spouse. Once you start speaking your significant other's language, it's amazing how much love begins to flow between a couple. For me personally, all of the languages apply, but they are in a ranked order. Can you guess what my #1 Love Language is? (Options are Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation & Gifts) You can refer back to our blogs from November 9-13, 2009 for the detailed descriptions.
Tammy's Response to "When have you felt the most loved?"
- When my husband notices that the dishwasher needs to be unloaded & reloads it. Or, when I walk in the door after work after he beats me home and he has already started dinner. At the same time, when I'm at the office and one of my coworkers sees that I'm overwhelmed and they take it upon themselves to make a phone call that is generally my responsibility. Anything anyone can do that says, "Here let me do that for you" says to me: "I love you Tammy!" It goes a long way in my book. Notice I feel loved when someone does something that takes a load off of what I have to do, not when they're doing their already assigned chores/responsibilities. That is key.
Can you figure out what my language is?
Answer: Acts of Service
Please check back in as we will be sharing with you all week our own personal languages. Thanks for reading!
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counselingat Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.