Tamara and I were invited to present 2 workshops a few weeks ago at the National Alpha Sigma Alpha Convention. We were honored to present on Positive Parenting and Understanding Others through the Five Love Languages. At the beginning of the Five Love Languages workshop we had attendees fill out a slip of paper with the question "When was a time you felt most loved?" We collected them, explained the concept of the Five Love Languages, and at the end we "quizzed" them by reading their responses to the question and had them guess what that person's love language could be. Tamara and I received great feedback from the group that this exercise really reinforced the concept. This week we want you to guess! In each blog this week we will share with you a situation where one of our therapists has felt loved and you can guess the love language! Remember the five love languages are: Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time.You can refer back to our blogs from November 9-13, 2009 for the detailed descriptions.
Teri's Response to "When have you felt most loved?" Even though I talk for a living, having a long, deep talk with my husband or best friend fills me up. Sitting with my husband over coffee, relaxed, totally focused on each other without distractions, and engrossed in a conversation is a picture perfect moment for me. I feel loved when he gives me undivided attention, and I feel like the most important person to him at that time. I feel loved when he truly listens and asks questions and he genuinely cares what I am saying even if he disagrees. It is important for me to make sure I slow down enough in my busy schedule to do this, otherwise a distance can start and we can feel disconnected. Remember it's important to prioritize moments for you and your partner to speak each others love languages. Not doing so can result in your loved one not feeling loved.
Can you guess what this love language is??? The answer is: Quality Time Keep reading this week to see other examples of love languages!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.