- The alternative to forgiveness is resentment. Resentment is one of the most toxic things to relationships, and can often times cause irreparable damage. Resentment can grow and become so large that it blocks a person's ability to have deep connections and intimacy. This resentment spreads to relationships and people that have nothing to do with the core wound. It can filter into our relationships with friends, co-workers, spouses, and family. Often times, resentment can become even larger than the original wound itself. It can also cause health problems from holding in toxic feelings. As Teri mentioned, forgiveness is for YOU, not them. Choose to forgive, in order to let go of resentment and the impact it can have on your life.
- Forgiving someone is giving up hope you can change the past. It's easy to get stuck in the past if we allow it. Getting to a place of acceptance of what has happened to us is a large part of forgiveness. One thing we help clients with daily is guiding them towards seeing their hurt as an opportunity to grow and change. When we can find meaning in our wounds, it takes the power away from our past, as well as the things we can't control (e.g., other people, the past, etc.).
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Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.