Forgiveness Tips

Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is you." I've also heard someone describe the process of not forgiving being like "drinking poison and expecting someone else to die." Many feel overwhelmed and confused about what it actually means to forgive someone, so this week Imagine Hope is going to provide you with tips to remember as you embark on the journey of forgiveness.

  • Remember that forgiveness is a process- Forgiving someone is not a one time thing. It is usually something you have to do over and over, especially when you are triggered about the wound. The biggest goal is for you to get the emotions out in a healthy way. Whether it is talking to a professional, journaling, or writing a letter to the person that you don't send.  After time you should be able to wish the person who hurt you well. This will offer you freedom from your pain.
  • Forgiveness isn't something you do for them; it's for you!- The focus should not be about offering them forgiveness. When you forgive someone, it is about freedom from the pain for YOU. If you choose not to forgive than you choose to hold the pain and not feel better.

Keep checking back this week as we share more things to remember when forgiving!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a virtual licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.  Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.