This week we have been discussing positive ways to parent your children. We have talked about boundaries, positive reinforcement, natural consequences, following through, and withdrawing from conflict. Here are two more: 6. Separate the behavior from the child. Make sure your child knows you love them no matter what they do. It is good to say, "That is not good behavior" vs. "You are a bad boy". Kids personalize such comments and feel they are bad rather than their behavior.
7. Make sure discipline builds self-esteem rather than humiliates or embarrasses them. Carry out discipline that teaches them so they can learn from their mistakes.
8. Allow negative feelings in your child: for example sadness, frustration, disappointment. This helps them learn to cope with uncomfortable feelings. Teach them appropriate expressions of emotions and model this for them as well.
Tomorrow Joleen will give our final 3 tips.
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.