There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression, anxiety, low self esteem and a host of others. So far, have you recognized any negative or destructive thought patterns that exist in your life? How do you think they are effecting you and the people around you? Here are several more negative and unhealthy patterns of thinking: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
13. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgement.
14. Being Right: You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. (We see this one quite frequently in marriage counseling).
15. Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You feel bitter when the reward doesn't come.
Check back with the Imagine Hope Counseling Group blog next week, where we will go back and address ways to challenge and change each of the unhealthy/negative patterns of thinking. Thanks for joining us this week!
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.