Healthy Boundaries for Grandparents-1

In honor of Grandparents Day yesterday, we are discussing this week the importance of grandparents. If you were blessed enough to have grandparents in your life, you know how awesome and amazing their impact can be! Growing up, I was blessed to know one set of my grandparents. Their impact on my life is something that makes me emotional when I think about it. My grandparents were the ones cheering the loudest for me in the stands, taking my sister and I for sleepovers to give my parents a break, and often spoiling us with gifts, clothes, and ice cream. And don’t get me started on how amazing my Grandma’s cooking is!

Grandparents have the ability to be positive role models for their grandchildren. They often are the epitome of unconditional love, and can support and nurture without all the “rules” parents have. They are often a lot more fun too!

This week on the blog we are talking about the importance of boundaries for grandparents. Some of these may be boundaries that need to be set to show respect for their children/grandchildren, and some may be boundaries that grandparents need to set to protect themselves. We hope that this week is helpful for you, whether you are a grandparent, parent, or have grandparents.

Respect the Parent’s Rules

One boundary that is very important for grandparents to have is to make sure they follow the parent’s rules. It can be very tempting as a grandparent to throw all the rules out the window when the grandchildren are around! However, this can be very confusing to children and cause a lot of stress on their parents.

Children need things like bedtimes, routines, and rules. Some parents work very hard to stay on a schedule with their children because they know it makes things easier. If a parent requests that the children go to bed at a certain time, grandparents need to be respectful enough of their parenting to follow this request. The last thing you want is to make the parents feel they can’t trust you!

Continue to read this week as we talk more about boundaries for grandparents.

Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.