In honor of International Friendship day just passing (August 2nd), we are talking this week about healthy friendships. It’s important to focus on the things that are present and not present in a friendship. When you see or experience negative things such as jealousy, gossip, and narcissism, it can be easy to focus on those things. However, it’s equally important to focus on the positive things that may or may not be present. This week, we want you to look at your friendships through a new lens to see what characteristics are present in your friendships, and how you can work to be a better friend.
“Yielding flexibility is a virtue of an ever-expanding heart.”― Molly Friedenfeld
Flexibility is the ability to be molded, adapted, or modified. Flexibility is an extremely important trait to possess as a friend and to also have present in your friendships. How do your friends react when you need them to be adaptable or when plans have to be modified because “life happens”? Friends who react with grace and understanding are truly great friendships.
On the other hand, how do you react when a friend needs to cancel or change plans? Do you moan and groan because you are inconvenienced, or are you flexible and sympathetic? How you react shows just what kind of friend you are to others.
*Disclaimer: Just like most things in life, there are extreme situations where you do need to have firmer boundaries. If a friend continually cancels on you or is always expecting you to be the flexible one, they are not respecting you or the friendship.
Check back in this week as we talk about more characteristics of a healthy friendship.
Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.