This week on Imagine Hope’s blog, we are offering you some simple, yet effective tips to help you improve your marriage. Even if your marriage is good, these small changes can make it even better! We hope you find it easy to implement these tips into your daily life: 1. Turn off the electronics- This may seem so incredibly simple, yet it is a common complaint we hear all the time from our clients. You may have a habit of coming home, turning on the TV, and zoning out for a few hours. As much as some “me” time is needed after a long day, it’s just as important to have “us” time. Make sure you turn the TV off and check in with your partner every day. Ask your spouse about their day, what they have going on tomorrow, or even just how they are in general. This connection time can be really important time in your marriage.
Put the phone down. Disconnect from social media, your work email, or texting. Make your spouse the priority in your free time instead of everyone else’s lives. I guarantee your marriage will benefit from it.
2. Make eye contact-When you speak to your spouse, look them in the eye. Looking someone in the eye communicates that they are important to you and that they are the priority in that moment. Looking your spouse in the eye while you speak creates trust, a safe space, and credibility. If you look around or appear distracted while communication is occurring, it sends the message that other things are more important.
3. Go to bed together- Although this is not always possible, make it a priority when you can. Going to bed together encourages “pillow talk” or chatting while you are lying in bed together, as well as an increase in the possibility of intimacy occurring. It can also create a sense of security. Many couples I work with state that when one partner stays up later, it creates mistrust—and the partner who goes to bed wonders what their spouse is staying up to do or watch.
4. Let them know you’re thinking about them- When your spouse crosses your mind during the day, text them or call them! It’s amazing how powerful a little text can be saying you’re thinking about them. This seemingly simple act of communication helps to build connection with your spouse and is a sweet (and romantic!) gesture.
Continue to read and check in this week as we give you more simple tips to help improve your marriage!
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.