You know the saying "Timing is everything"? That could not be more true when asserting yourself. Timing
When we are talking about timing, we are talking about when you have something you are planning to share with someone. This obviously isn't when you need to assert yourself on the fly.
It's important to pick an appropriate time to share when you are asserting yourself. If the person you need to share with is in the middle of 3 different things, stressed out, and most likely not listening, you are walking into disaster. It's usually a surprise for people when someone who is usually passive starts having a voice. So you want to create an atmosphere they can hear you and really listen. You may be nervous as well. If it is stressful and chaotic, it won't come out the way you have planned.
We are not saying it has to be perfect. Many times the situation is not ideal. But as much as you can, be aware of what is happening with the other person, how you are feeling at the time, and ask yourself how you can create the best atmosphere.
Also, be aware of where to have the conversation. Does it need to be in private? When you are first asserting yourself doing it in front of a group can be intimidating. Try it with one person first. Then move into groups.
Remember, asserting yourself is challenging. But having a voice and speaking your needs can really boost your confidence and help you move forward in life.
Tomorrow Joleen will share more about asserting yourself. Thank you for reading and have a wonderful week!
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville