Ways to Be a Better Listener- 4

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How many times a day do you talk to someone while they are on their phone texting or googling something? Do you feel like they are listening? Probably not. Truth is, they may "hear" you but are they fully comprehending what you are saying when their mind is engaged elsewhere?

To really feel like someone is listening, we need them to look at us, turn towards us and engage.

If you are listening to someone, ask questions, nod your head in affirmation or if you don't agree or understand, try to engage with questions that aren't defensive but to seek understanding.

Maybe you are easily distracted by the tv or some other form of electronics. If so, move away when you are listening or turn them off or pause them while someone is talking. This is a very easy thing to do to be a better listener but it does take intention. It's truly become a habit for all of us to "listen" while we browse. Make an intentional effort to stop yourself and listen. Or at times it's okay to say to someone, "What you have to say to me is very important. Can you give me one minute to close this window or to finish what I'm doing. Then I can be more attentive." I think all of us would rather have someone say this then to not truly listen.

Hopefully this week you will not only read these tips but make intentions to start new ways of being a better listener. Tomorrow Joleen has another wonderful tip. Thank you for reading and have a good week!

Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling.  We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville