Unfortunately, cancer has touched my life directly. I lost my father to cancer 12 years ago. The stats shared yesterday are overwhelming. Lives will be forever changed. We're writing to hopefully help you, the reader, be better prepared if you're supporting someone going through this difficult journey. 2. Only Offer Advice When Asked
When we see our friends, family members and those we love going through such a tough time, it's natural to want to fix it. We naturally want to make them feel better....isn't that what we're supposed to do?
There's an "art" to being helpful and supportive. The type of support someone needs who's dealing with cancer is for you to listen and be present with them. They don't need advice. They don't need to be told what to do. They already have so many experts telling them about surgeries, chemo, radiation, drugs, upcoming changes in their body, etc. Why would they want someone else telling them what to do?
The best way to honor and respect a friend or loved one with cancer is to refrain from giving advice unless they ask, "What do you think I should do?" or "What is your opinion?" If we give unsolicited advice we risk overwhelming them and coming across as disrespectful.
We have more guidelines to share with you on how to support someone going through cancer. Please check back in tomorrow!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.