This week we are discussing passive-aggressive behavior, what it looks like, and what it may feel like to be on the receiving end. Here are a few more “types” of passive-aggressive behavior: Playing the Victim
A passive-aggressive is never at fault. Let’s say a passive-aggressive friend arrives an hour late to a party you are throwing. You have every right to be frustrated and irritated at them, so you express this. However, you find that the passive-aggressive is actually offended that YOU are upset at THEM. YOU have “unrealistic expectations” and it is someone else’s fault that they are late (their boss, the person in the car in front of them, their date). All you hear are excuses, and no ownership of their behavior. Does this sound familiar at all?
Never Getting Angry
Often passive-aggressive individuals are taught growing up that expressing anger is unacceptable. They go through life learning to stuff their anger instead of expressing it in a healthy way. When you interact with these individuals, everything seems fine ALWAYS. They never appear to get angry or frustrated by anything—at least on the outside! On the inside, they are fuming and plotting. Passive-aggressive individuals who don’t get angry may still try to get even, in the most non-confrontational, passive-aggressive way they can!
Continue to read this week as we discuss more passive-aggressive “types”.
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.