Characteristics of Unsafe People

Last week our focus was on unhealthy boundaries which is a sign that this person may not be an emotionally safe person. Joleen's book recommendation on Friday was "Safe People" by Cloud and Townsend. This week Imagine Hope is using information from this book to help you recognize when a person isn't "safe". If you find yourself around an unsafe person, it is important for you to evaluate the risk of continuing a relationship with this person. Unsafe people can be destructive and it may be necessary for you to distance yourself out of protection. Unsafe People:

1. Think they have it all together instead of admitting their weakness

2. Are religious instead of spiritual (not that religion is "unsafe" but that sometimes for people the religion is so much of the focus that spirituality is missing)

3. Are defensive instead of open to feedback

4. Are self-righteous instead of humble

5. Only apologize instead of changing their behavior

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.  Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.