Some people feel loved by getting stuff! They like "things" and when someone gives them something- whether new, old, or even non-traditional- they feel loved. Giving:
~There are the traditional things to give- flowers, chocolates, fuzzy slippers...whatever "things" they like. But do you ever listen to your spouse talk to a friend and hear them say what they REALLY like? Listen up! Women do it all the time. Just the other day one of my friend's husband overheard me talking about essential oils and how much I loved them. He heard his wife say she was wanting to learn more about them. The next day he emailed me to find out how to get them and what ones she would like. She will feel so loved by this. He listened to what she is interested in and then followed through on getting it. What a great way to say I love you to someone who likes to receive gifts!
Then there are non-traditional things~
~Teri mentioned making something that doesn’t cost money. People generally love things that are made from the heart.
~The gift of TIME can be so wonderful to someone who doesn’t have a lot of it. Taking the kids so they have some time to themselves. Or cleaning the house so they have time enjoy the weekend.
~If your spouse is exhausted with a new baby, the gift of rest. Give them the weekend to rest. You can really get creative with this. All you have to do is ask yourself, “What is it that my partner needs the most right now? What are they struggling with the most? What do they complain about the most?” You will get your answer.
~If you’re going to spend money, how about a gift card to a Spa or to her favorite clothing store. Especially if your partner has trouble spending money on themselves (Most Mom’s struggle with this!). If your spouse loves sports, a gift card to Dicks or to BW’s and a card that says, “Go have fun with the guys and watch the game!”
~If you do jewelry, make it something that means something like her birthstone or the kids birthstones. Something that lets her know you spent some time thinking about it and didn’t just buy whatever someone at the counter suggested.
Hopefully you are getting some good ideas here! Tomorrow Joleen will finish up with Physical Touch and Acts of Service. Thank you for reading and Happy Holidays!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC, LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.