I have many clients who are in different stages of dating—clients who are contemplating putting themselves “out there”, clients who are actively dating and in a relationship, or even clients who have recently ended a relationship. I think this week’s blog is full of good tips and insight! Tip #3- Forgiveness
You can tell a lot about a person by their ability or inability to forgive. Those who forgive easily often show grace and understanding, knowing that everyone makes mistakes. They are able to express their feelings and explain why they were hurt. They can use the hurtful situation as a way to grow with their partner.
Those that hold grudges can make it very difficult to move on past an offense. It may get brought up over and over again, or used as a weapon to manipulate. I would even say that some people get “pleasure” from not forgiving. It’s something they can hold over your head for a very, very long time.
Can you bring up hurtful things with your dating partner? How does it go? Partners who are not safe may turn a concern you have about them into a personal attack on you. They twist your words, saying that you’re crazy for feeling the way that you do.
If you realize that lack of forgiveness is an issue, you may need to re-evaluate this dating partner and where the relationship is heading. There is a good chance that the relationship is not a healthy one and needs some work.
Keep reading this week as we continue to share tips for healthy dating.
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.