Advice to My Younger Self- Christy

Don’t Sweat the Small Things Dear younger Christy-

I know you think the things you are going through right now are the end of the world. You just went through a bad break-up, have constant self-esteem and body image issues, friend drama, and overall High School stress. Let me tell you, it does get better.

The things that you think are so important right now, really aren’t. This isn’t meant to minimize what you’re going through, but rather to tell you that there is a much bigger world out there. Once you leave the four walls of High School, you will realize what’s truly important in life.

Don’t stress so much about the little things. Right now you think your looks and popularity are most important. They are how you judge your self-worth, which is at an all-time low. You will soon find that most people actually love you for what’s on the inside, as cliché as it may sound. Don’t stress about the number on the scale, the size of your jeans, or the zits on your face. They are merely the small things.

The people you’ve been surrounded by are not necessarily the people you will choose to keep in your life. You will soon learn the true meaning of friendship-the kind where a friend will drop anything, no questions asked, just to help you. No strings attached. The friends you make in the future won’t care about the name brand on your shirt or the car that you drive. Don’t stress about these little things now.

The guy you just broke up with will continue to play games. He is not the right one for you. He will tell you what you want to hear, then turn around and say mean and hurtful things. Don’t sweat the small things with him. Don’t allow him to cause you so much hurt and stress. Eventually you will look back on this relationship as merely a learning experience. Don’t let the small things bother you so much.

In a few years, you will realize what life is really all about. It’s about love, relationships, faith, and hope. These are the big things in life. The relationships you build will become so much more powerful than you can ever imagine. The wonderful man you meet in a few years ends up not only becoming your husband, but also your best friend. You accomplish more than you ever thought you could because you find your own positive self-worth.

So, don’t sweat the small things.

Love,

Christy

 

Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.