This week we're talking about how to protect our children during the divorce process. Each child will handle divorce differently, but we want to help you know what's "normal" and to be expected.
2. Kids may need more lovin'
During the course of the divorce you may need to give your children more affection at different times. Kids may become more physically needy during the initial stages of a divorce, or become more emotional during this time frame. This is a natural occurrence and feel free to give out extra hugs and snuggle time. Kids who are feeling extra scared or lonely will especially need more affection.
3. Parents need lovin' too, however...
As a parent, you're going to need hugs too during this rough time. However, avoid letting your children take care of you despite needing the extra affection. Some children may naturally fall into an adult role when they see their parents struggling more than usual & will want to make their parent feel better and take care of their parent. This is not a child's role. Keep in mind that what your child is going through is hard enough & they do not need to take care of you as well.
Talk with your child and let them know you are there to take care of them and that you have your own support. Divorce stinks and no one does it perfectly. Hopefully these suggestions will help minimize and prevent some of the pain that can be forseen. Thanks for reading.
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.