How many times do you hear people say, "I'm going to stop doing _____". People commit to stopping bad habits, changing their life styles, and purging out the negatives in their lives. Just look at the average person's list of New Years Resolutions! But do you ever hear someone talk about what they are replacing the bad with? Good for them that they are trying to clean up their life, but if they have a gaping hole that the negative used to fill, they are sure to fill it with a different negative or relapse quickly if they aren't careful.
Kathy Kruger wrote about this concept and the idea of letting go of the bad and letting in the good. This way once the bad is gone, you aren't left empty, but instead are receiving something positive.
So this week we are going to point out 10 positives you can "let in" after you let go of the negatives in your life.
1. Let In Awareness
If you float through life running into anything that comes your way, you might be living without intention. You are living in reaction mode. Letting in awareness means that you take a step back and take in all that is around you. You pay attention and connect the dots of things happening around you. You understand and apply the concept of cause and effect and you think on a deeper level. Don't just say "I'm going to get my anger under control". LET IN awareness by saying, "I am going to stay aware of my emotions and not react in the moment when things go wrong by taking a deep breathe and choosing my words carefully before responding."
2. Let In Love
It is a basic human need to be and feel loved. Do you let love in? Do you allow others to love you, or do you sabotage their love by not letting them get close? Maybe you try to talk others out of reasons to love you by rejecting their compliments or putting yourself down.
True letting love in has to start with YOUR self love before you are ever able to let others love you. If you don't believe that you are loveable, it is difficult to let others love and care for you. When your self talk reflects self-hate, you assume others see you with the same eyes you see yourself with. Let love in by changing your self-talk to a kind, patient, and forgiving voice that allows you to not have to be perfect.
We hope you can purge out the old negatives, and let in these positives. Check back all week for more!
Adapted from "You are worthy of receiving: 10 things to to let into your life" by Kathy Kruger
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.