I loved Natalie's story from yesterday... What a great illustration of how to use humor and laughter to help you handle frustration! Today, we wrap up this week's blog with tip number 5: Using love as a way to handle frustration.
Have you ever been so frustrated with someone for something they said or did, but made a conscious decision to be kind to them and show love towards them, instead of hanging onto anger? How did it feel when you did this? More than likely, if you answer this question, the answer will be that it not only felt really good, but making a conscious decision to act kindly and lovingly towards the other person also made your frustration go away!
We learn that love is not easily angered and is patient. This is sometimes really difficult to comprehend and to do! The thing with love, is that it's self-giving-- it's not selfish. When we allow our frustration with situations or people to get the best of us, usually it's because we are thinking more about ourselves and how the event is impacting US, not about the other person or situation. We get irritated because we are making it about us and not realizing that things don't always revolve around us-- we are making ourselves the center of things. Love is the opposite of this. It revolves around the other person.
It's important to remind ourselves each day to not get so preoccupied with ourselves and our own things that we forget about how relationships and people are really the priority in life.
Can you make a conscious decision today to use love as a way to handle frustration?
Adapted from Rick Warren's "A Purpose Driven Life"
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.